Everyone experiences periods of change and transformation, it’s a natural part of being human. It’s also an opportunity to learn more about yourself, reflect on your ability to ‘adapt’ to changing situations and begin to understand just how resilient you have become.
Change can make you feel vulnerable, it can also feel threatening. During periods of transformation, your mind (ego) can become very controlling as fear and anxiety creep in. Remember the proverb, ‘Just when then caterpillar thought the world was over, it became a butterfly’. Before any great transformation, there must be a period of change.
If you ignore the symptoms of change and choose to push on, you may eventually hit a physical, emotional or mental ‘brick wall’. This can arrive in any shape or form, so it may be a good time to go within and discover what’s really going on.
Resistance to change is what causes pain. ‘Letting go’ may be what you need to do, but it doesn’t always come easily, especially when the ego refuses to ‘give in’. Humans are creatures of habit who have a natural tendency to cling to ways they have always known.
If you find yourself going through deep and profound changes right now, here are a few ideas that may help you. The most important thing to remember is to be self-loving. Create time and space for yourself to manage the process you are experiencing and know, as with everything, ‘this too shall pass’.
Tune in to yourself
Focusing too much attention on what is going on in the lives of other people is one way to get caught up in their drama. It may provide a temporary distraction from some of the discomfort you are possibly feeling, but it’s never helpful in the long run. It can also be highly addictive. As sensitive person you can easily absorb the energy of other people and the environments you find yourself in, and you can become influenced by other people’s ways of thinking. Consider who you spend time with. Limit your exposure to the media. Ensure that when you are feeling a change happening, you create space for yourself and time alone or you spend time with people who are loving, nurturing, accepting and willing to just hold the space for you to be as you are. Take yourself into environments that soften your feelings, rather than disturb them. Consider recording your thoughts and ideas in a journal.
Make time for relaxation, meditation and gentle expansion
You live in a time when there are many free resources available. Social media provides access to a wealth of positive information and 300 videos are uploaded every minute to YouTube alone! You can listen to relaxation exercises, meditation experiences, webinars and workshops from inspirational teachers throughout the world. These will help to lift your vibration. It’s time to switch off the TV and realign your thoughts to what positive feelings you want to bring in. Ted talks (www.ted.com) are inspiring short talks which cover a huge range of subjects. You may like to try this one https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_the_power_of_vulnerability?referrer=playlist-the_most_popular_talks_of_all
Develop a healthy routine
It’s very easy to lose your sense of routine when life challenges you. Write down a list of six simple things you will commit to each day, so you feel that you have created a sense of meaning and fulfilment.
It can be interesting (and quite revealing!) to observe to the repetitive thoughts that flow through your mind. When you choose to do this it’s helpful to come from a place of detachment where you become the witness of thoughts, without the need to get caught up in them. These thoughts often trigger emotions and connections to old stories and patterns of conditioning. Feelings of guilt and regret link to unresolved issues from the past. Worry and fear can feed a mind that is too wrapped up in the future (and events that may simply not happen). The best way to become present and really live in the moment is to focus on the breath. Follow it to the count of four breathing in and to the count of six breathing out. Taking a longer exhalation really slows the mind chatter and using affirmations can deepen your experience. I have created a powerful statement you can use below. If you find yourself living in your head, bring your focus back into your body through intention and movement. Go for a walk, take a dance class, become more active and you will soon notice a difference as the mind loses control. Try to notice when you are overthinking and affirm that you are willing to trust a larger plan. This is a positive way to reduce feelings of overwhelm.
Being ‘ungrounded’ is often the most common reason for feeling out of balance during times of change and transition and can cause fluctuations in your mood, especially when you feel overwhelmed by your emotions. Take off your shoes and socks and stand on the grass. Feel the soil under your feet and your energy sinking into the earth. Breathe right down into the earth so it begins to feel like an extension of your body. If you need to be indoors then imagine you are growing roots out of the soles of your feet and anchoring them into the ground. Yoga, Pilates and Tai Chi are all great practices to get grounded in your body. Eating regular snacks can help and making sure you have time spent outside in nature every day will really help you to stay in balance. Make sure you are drinking enough fresh, clean water and try carrying a crystal in your pocket, like red jasper, haematite or smokey quartz.
Clear your clutter
Everyone keeps things they no longer need that can block fresh new energy and opportunities from coming in. Clearing space in your environment can be extremely cathartic and have a positive effect on how you feel. Clutter can make you feel:
- Tired/lethargic/disorganised/stuck in the past
- Congested in your body and heavier than you would like to feel – physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually
- Confused and unable to achieve clarity
- More inclined to procrastinate, to become anxious and depressed
- Out of harmony
- Like life is on hold
- Like you become distracted from important things
- That you’re sending out the wrong signals about what you wish to achieve
- Like you have excess baggage
All spaces benefit from regular cleansing, in the most simple way the act of opening a window or door can allow in a fresh new energy to enter a space, but clearing a cupboard or drawer can really help you feel like you are moving forward and releasing that which you no longer need.
- Low level energy accumulates around any kind of dirt – to improve the vibration and therefore the ‘positive’ feeling energy, things do need to feel clean and fairly orderly. You don’t need to become obsessive about this but the space needs to feel comfortable enough for you to relax in and it’s good for everything to have a home where it belongs.
- Everything that happens in the building is recorded in the walls, ceilings, floors, furniture and objects. Only keep what you really love, what IS really useful and beautiful to you. If there has been an argument, angry words shared or feeling of loss in some way, the residue of energy will linger and need to be cleared away.
- Clutter creates obstacles and ‘stuckness’ in life, it can stop change from happening.
Light a candle, burn some incense, open windows and doors, play music that will uplift you. Affirm to yourself “It’s safe to let this object go”. Use bowls of salt to clear the space afterwards, discarding regularly. Remember that putting things into the loft or attic, in the belief that ‘out of sight, out of mind’ won’t be an effective long-term solution. If you need help please let me know and I will send you my clutter clearing guide.
Take back a feeling of control
It can be easy to become focussed on events over which you have no power, or people who might never change their attitude or behaviours. Rather than focus on others or moving that which is unmovable, focus your attention on those things you ‘can’ change and control. Ask yourself “What can I take responsibility for in this moment or situation?” When you look for opportunities to empower yourself and work towards change that ‘is’ possible, you’re less likely to feel stuck in difficult situations.
You may like to repeat the following statement (or use parts of it as simple affirmations). Any statement that begins with the words ‘I am’ sends a powerful and magical code of awakening out into the Universe and influences your unconscious mind. It can bring about positive and lasting change.
“I am able to connect to my deeper all-knowing self, with ease, confidence and clarity and I do this through breath and intention. I welcome my full inner strength during times when I have needed to uncover my truth and connect with myself on deeper levels. I trust that all my experiences have a purpose and I receive what I need, the lessons and the gifts, even though they may show up in ways I may not fully understand. I acknowledge what I may have lost and what that loss taught me. I acknowledge what my emotions have shown me, they reveal just how resilient I am. I showed up for myself and will continue to show up through all these changes.
I breathe in peace, forgiveness and surrender, I breathe out anger, grief and fear. I breath in love, light and gratitude, I breath out despair, hopelessness and anxiety.
I restore myself energetically by visualizing white light flowing into my body. Control is replaced with surrender. Confusion is replaced with clarity. Uncertainty is replaced with knowing. My circumstances are only temporary, and I can change how I choose to see things.”
Reach out to someone who can help you navigate through this period of change
Do you know someone who can help you? A caring friend or professional therapist who may have some experience of what you are going through? Remember everything goes in cycles and you may be experiencing another ‘layer’ of a situation you have needed to work on before.
Prioritise your health through your transition and don’t be afraid to ask for help when you need it. You weren’t built to withstand every sudden event in life without the support of others. Consider talking to family and friends who are experiencing similar changes or find a support group in your community. Ask your GP for recommendations and do consider talking therapies. You can’t avoid change, but you can develop greater resilience to manage it. You can embrace transition and see challenges as opportunities to thrive and move to your next level of evolution.
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Quantum Psionics can help you to:
Resolve major health issues and low energy
Release toxicity in the body
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Create happier and healthier relationships
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